it was the rabbit vibrator, created in 1983, coupled with sex and the city’s open, frank discussion of the great pleasures it can offer that helped cement the vibrator as a staple for self-love — for women or men.
however, it still is taboo in some places around the world, and can be a cause for shock in the instances it pops up on television (note: it’s rare you’ll actually see a vibrator even in those scenes where we know and can hear that one is being handled, so unthinkable is the mere sight of it).
but, just as cleopatra found a way, so too do the rest of us when in need. take alabama, for example, where
a ban on all sex toys was upheld as recently as 2007 on the grounds of “public morality.” some clever sex toy sellers found a loophole that brings this history full-circle: according to the law, the sale of sex toys is permissible if they are needed for “medical, scientific, educational, legislative, judicial, or law enforcement” purposes. so when customers drop by the pleasures store (which has a convenient drive-thru), for example, they can simply fill out an anonymous form explaining whether their partner has “difficulty with sexual fulfillment” and they’re all set.
in the end, as taboos prevail, the story remains the same: there is no better excuse than one’s health. no matter what disease — or desire — ails you.