“my grandparents lived through the second world war. when they were four or five, the nazis came and bombed the cities at 4 a.m. and that’s what (vladimir) putin did, too.
“my grandmother’s sister lives in moscow, and they don’t speak anymore because the way the propaganda works there is incredible. she believes what they’re being told. i visited her after the annexation of crimea in 2014, and she believed that putin was doing the right thing, that he’s bringing back the soviet union, that he’s liberating the western part from nazis. she’s very much a believer of that because it’s been a part of her for so long. he’s like jesus christ there. people there believe that he’s the one, and, without him, everything there will fall apart.
“it’s heartbreaking to see, with families on both sides not able to communicate. there’s so much tension. but our relatives in russia who are younger, they sent us a message the day after the invasion, saying they were so sorry and that they were watching it and it was so horrifying. but they have access to different sources.
“i have lots of friends in ukraine. a good friend of mine, my guitar teacher in kharkiv, which is being bombed now, said he had to spend nights in a bomb shelter. there’s no electricity — he has to go outside and make a fire to heat his food. a bomb hit the apartment right next to him. he’s sleeping in his bathtub, for protection, when he doesn’t want to go to the bomb shelter in the basement because there’s no electricity and it’s pitch black.
“i’ve been donating to the red cross, and i support the resistance of the people, but i haven’t gone to protests. i passed by the russian embassy, but i’m not against anybody there, and it seems to me that the hatred towards russian speakers — russophobia — would be hard for anyone from russia. i’ve seen that hatred — like someone spilled red paint on the embassy’s fence. but there’s already too much hatred, and i don’t think that kind of protesting will bring this conflict to an end. i bought flags that i put up in the clinic where i work. my protest is by helping my friends, talking to colleagues and patients of mine to understand better what’s going on, and not by kindling the fire.”