“i didn’t want to do that,” she said. “i do feel like some feel, like, it’s a little bit selfish, because i could spare my kids from having the gene. but i wouldn’t get the kids that i have if i were to choose that and i would never choose anybody different.”
after putting the surgery on the backburner and successfully giving birth to two children, heide began to grow increasingly restless as her cancer fears returned and began to consume her thoughts. she focused on making every day as special as possible. “no one would love (my daughters) like me,” she said. “so every christmas or birthday, or any type of holiday, i would always go above — take lots of pictures, make it perfect — in case it was their last one with me.”
in 2014, a still-procrastinating heide received the wakeup call she needed when her 23-year-old sister ali tested positive for the gene. ali quickly made the painful decision to have the surgery and doctors found evidence of stage 1 cancer in her stomach tissue. the discovery finally prompted heide to act. she had her own stomach removed at a calgary hospital the following year.
“knowing you carry a gene with such devastating potential is a heavy weight to carry,” she said. “it was heavier than i could mentally handle any longer.”